- Why did you decide to start doing intimacy workshops?
- The image of the roadblocks being flipped into building blocks is so powerful, how did you come up with that?
- Are some bricks in the wall foundational or does it depend on the family situation?
- What can a people expect when they come to a workshop?
- What is an emotional wall?
- What are you referring to when you talk about ‘love containers’?
- What types of things do you do in your workshops?
- How long are your workshops?
- Is this workshop about sex?
- Are the workshops for married couples only?
- Is there an age requirement for the workshops?
- Do you only do workshops for churches?
- Do you do men-only and woman-only workshops?
- Do you offer other types of workshops?
- What is the cost of your workshops?
- Can I sponsor someone to come to your workshop?
- What does the registration fee include?
- Can we host a workshop in our home?
- We have a small church; do you have a minimum number of sign-ups required?
- What if I can’t afford a workshop?
- What if my partner won’t come with me?
- Why did you decide to start doing intimacy workshops?
There are many challenges that relationships face in the culture that we live in. Technology has created many issues that affect marriages and relationships—how we communicate and how disconnected we can become. Intimacy Workshops was birthed from our own recovery process, having experienced the pain of living in a disconnected relationship.
- The image of the roadblocks being flipped into building blocks is so powerful, how did you come up with that?
We had all of these challenges in our relationship that we had to address in a recovery process. Intimacy is becoming a lost art in our culture and relationships are at issue—divorce is way too easy these days. We saw the roadblocks as bricks that create walls between people and found that flipping those into building blocks created a firm foundation to build upon.
- Are some bricks in the wall foundational or does it depend on the family situation?
Everyone brings their own issues (or baggage) to the relationship. Often our family of origin created or modeled challenges that we bring to our present relationships—so yes, it does depend on people’s backgrounds. For example, if there was anger in the family we grew up in and there was never any resolve for that behavior; then we may find ourselves having anger issues as well. Our belief systems totally play into the challenges that we face relationally. [If we were handled with anger—then we become angry]. However, all bricks that build walls are not necessarily from family issues, some can come from our own choices or from not addressing emotional pain or wounds from the past.
- What can a people expect when they come to a workshop?
- They can expect to identify the roadblocks affecting relationship
- People will learn how roadblocks break down intimacy.
- Gain an understanding of how to turn roadblocks into building blocks.
- They will learn what disconnection is and how to re-connect.
- They will be taught how emotional walls get built and how to bring them down.
- They will learn about their ability to contain love and whether their love container is broken or blocked.
- People will understand how personality differences can enhance relationship.
- What is an emotional wall?
An emotional wall is a barrier that gets built between individuals that blocks relationship. It is made up of emotions such as:
- Fears
- Abuse
- Deception
- Addictions
- Neglect (Avoidance)
The wall can be built over time, can have foundational issues that one or both partners bring to the relationship, and be reinforced by each other’s internal pain.
- What are you referring to when you talk about ‘love containers’?
Love containers essentially have the context of an individual’s ability to contain love. Some might refer to it as the heart because that is what we think of when we reference love. Everyone has a love container because each of us has the ability to contain love. However, that love container may be damaged with cracks or holes in it that come from issues of the past such as abuse or abandonment. People can pour love into people that may never be able to contain that love because it their container is damaged. Others might have a lid on their love containers—perhaps because of fear or feelings of unworthiness or undeserving.
- What types of things do you do in your workshops?
- Exercises that help people to experientially learn how to do relationship
- Illustrations
- Power-point
- Skits.
- How emotional walls get built and how to take them down.
- Identify where they may be breaks in their love containers.
- Learn what their primary love language is.
- How long are your workshops?
Workshops begin on a Saturday morning at 9:00 and end around 4:00 with an hour off for lunch. Six hours of interactive instruction.
- Is this workshop about sex?
No, this workshop is about learning how to find connection and identify the roadblocks that break down intimacy.
10. Are the workshops for married couples only?
No! There are many people who have had challenges navigating through relationships and may have experienced divorce. Intimacy is about learning how to connect with ourselves, with God and with others. Married couples benefit by being able to put what they learn into practice in their present relationship—singles learn how to identify what went wrong in past relationships and how to implement healthier behaviors in the future ones.
11. Is there an age requirement for the workshops?
Not necessarily—connection is important to people of all ages.
12. Do you only do workshops for churches?
Workshops can be customized to fit the needs of organizations and corporations. Connection is an important asset for team building.
13. Do you do men-only and woman-only workshops?
We build workshops to suit the needs of different types of groups. Intensives can be tailored to address more in-depth issues.
14. Do you offer other types of workshops?
Yes, there are different workshops. Workshops all deal with relational connection and intimacy on different levels.
15. What is the cost of your workshops?
You can attend a 6-7 hour workshop for about the cost of one hour of counseling. We are committed to making workshops very affordable for people.
16. Can I sponsor someone to come to your workshop?
Yes, we have a non-profit: Strategies for Healing Hearts. If you wanted to sponsor someone you know that could benefit from a workshop, then you could do so and have a tax-deduction.
17. What does the registration fee include?
- Workshop materials
- Boxed Lunch per individual
- Free book / Give-a-ways
- Follow-up resources
- 20 minute free phone/Skype consultation
- Behind the scene resources not available to the public
- Access to online counseling groups @ a discount
- Subscription to newsletter
- A percentage of monies collected donated back to hosting church
18. Can we host a workshop in our home?
Not at this time, but we could host a smaller workshop at our offices in the Denver area with a different fee structure.
19. We have a small church; do you have a minimum number of sign-ups required?
We require a minimum of 50 people (couples/singles) to host a workshop in Colorado. Outside of Colorado we require 100 people (couples/singles). If you have a small church, we recommend:
- Partnering with other churches in your area
- Marketing to the community
- Smaller numbers—can do with increased workshop fee
- Live streaming options of a workshop we are hosting elsewhere
20. What if I can’t afford a workshop?
We do have a small number of partial scholarships available that you may apply for.
21. What if my partner won’t come with me?
Everybody processes life differently. Going to a workshop may not be something that your partner thinks will help them, and they do not want to be forced to go. Extend grace to them and come anyway. There are answers here that will help you tremendously in not only navigating through your own road blocks, but in understanding what may be behind some of your partners struggles and obstacles. When you start healing yourself and removing the pressure for someone else to “fix themselves” a new work begins in your relationship that will redefine everything. For now, just focus on getting the answers that YOU need.