People have a hard time understanding why it is unhealthy to help people. There really is nothing wrong with helping people. It is Christmas time, nearly all of us find ourselves helping others at this time of year. But what is healthy and what is not, that is that question? Have you ever gotten lost in helping others, and wondered why it just never had the kind of results that you thought it would? And then there are those times when you start helping, but can’t ever seem to do enough to make it be better. That’s really the problem, isn’t it? Once you start helping, you don’t know where to stop. Sometimes it can be endless.
That’s why it is so important to have healthy boundaries. Boundaries are something that very few people know how to implement. There are many people who do not live their lives with healthy boundaries. And without boundaries, that is where people lose themselves . If there is an addict in your life, you can count on the fact that they will keep taking and taking–until parameters are placed on what you are willing to do and not do.
There are many good resources that teach the principles of how to live with healthy boundaries. I encourage you to start the new year with a resolution to learn how to implement healthy boundaries in your life that truly value yourself. If you have lost yourself–your voice (the ability to have a say in your relationship), and your ability to make decisions based on your own needs ( not necessarily the needs of your partner). It will take intentional effort on your part to find the real you again–but it is possible and you can do it. It can be a very Happy New Year when you recover that which is lost on the inside of you! Call me today and get started…303-564-2723.